I haven’t seen my mom for 4 years now because of Covid. We live thousands of miles away from each other, and the pandemic has complicated visiting on the both sides. I miss her, especially on days like today.
Like many parents, my mom hopes my brother and I succeed in life like what the American Dream entails, with the fear of us being nobody. It wasn’t until in my thirties, I realized that the goals I pursued and the meaning of success I imposed on myself and the others were a part of our family narratives. The things that I actually value in my life are different from hers.
Some parents have dreams and want the children to turn the dreams into reality. And some parents demonstrate how things can be done themselves and are role models for their children to follow. My mom thinks that I have done something that she would've never been able to do, but the truth is that I have learned many values things by watching her.
In many ways, she is my role model.
I learned the meaning of gender equity from my mom. Friends who know me well know that I grew up in the Air Force, and my mom retired as an Air Force officer. It might be common as a woman officer today, but she was a rare case back in the 60s. Her existence alone has proven that women can achieve just about anything as the others. She was one of three female officers in the entire campus and a leader to many.
I learned about partnership from her. She taught me what it feels and looks like when someone gets my back, and supported my dreams when they seemed impossible to reach.
I learned about generosity and warmth from her. She loves having relative and friends over to share meals and offer support when people are in need. Her warmth and care lead people open themselves up to her that turns into long-lasting relationships.
Like everyone else, my mom has her own challenges in life. But Mother’s Day reminds me of all these treasures that she has given me, and how much I miss her.
Happy Mother’s Day to all you moms!
