Making requests that matter can feel like asking questions at a webinar we had trouble connecting to. We need clarification on many things, yet we need help figuring out what to ask.
When something terrible happens, we are angry, frustrated, stressed, and anxious. It feels like we have an overwhelming number of needs to be met by others, yet they have no idea how to support us. But when we can calm down and understand what triggered us, we can be more honest and start to see our deepest longings.
Requests are bridges to connection. It's nearly impossible to make an effective one if we don't know what we want.