The danger of contrived positivity is the absence of emotional grounding work. When someone tells us to be positive when we are emotionally triggered, angry, sad, or experiencing pain, that advice isn't helpful at all.
Not addressing emotional disconnection but jumping into the positive outcome is the chase to the bottom. It's convenient for people who just want the outcome without dealing with the messy middle, but we are the ones who end up with the problematic side effect—our emotions are stuck inside us and aren't going anywhere.
Grounding ourselves with triggered emotions and connecting them to our needs is one way to create an emotional shift. Not only does it help us connect with ourselves, but it also shifts our emotional state, which benefits the people around us.
If we only look at the immediate results, the differences wouldn't be as apparent. But when we learn to see the change inside us, we realize how this process helps us build a stronger foundation over time.
Don't just jump into the emotional positivity. Work your way through the connection slowly but surely. Drip by drip, we are better inside out.
